I just read a great article about getting beat down by clients who don't see th... at Hey Gorgeous Blog, and this one comment really stopped me in my tracks:
"If you EVER need someone to vouch for what you say, from the “done it wrong” end, please please email me. My daughter got married 3 years ago and she and fiance planned everything beautifully, but the one thing my daughter felt she didn’t need was a day of coordinator and she was right, for everything up to the wedding. The day of though, I was the one carrying the flowers all over the city, putting together the table settings because the venue coordinator had not thought about how much time it would take and when the reception finished, the lights went out and I was cleaning up the huge room, loading up the cars with things that had to be taken. My hair and make up were ruined before the wedding because of the heat and all of the running and stress. I’d do anything for my daughter and while she was willing to change and help clean up afterwards, it was her day, and I was determined nothing would ruin it for her. And it didn’t. But as MOTB, I felt defeated. I had no quiet time with my daughter before the event, no pictures of she and I together, and to be honest, while it was her day, I wanted to be able to look back on the day and cherish it fully. I’m sad that while it was a beautiful day and the memories are great, there is a side of me that feels like I missed that MOTB moment.
Such a shame. I highly recommend reading the whole post and all the comments.
Sometimes as planners, we need others to speak up about our benefits in order to be fully understood. Gather feedback from photographers, caterers, mothers-of-the-bride -- all people whose burdens we planners have eased during a high-stress, once-in-a-lifetime, gotta-be-perfect event. One you can show your value through heartfelt testimonials and specific case studies (instead of telling a dry description of your services), there is no question of your value as a planner.
One last thought: why spend the money on a gorgeous venue, a catered dinner, flower arrangements, lighting, programs, menus, favors -- the list goes on and on.... if there is no one dedicated to making sure that the setup is correct, that you can enjoy your food, that the flowers go in the right place, that the lighting folks work in sync with the venue and the florist, that the programs/menus/favors and all the stuff the bride tirelesly DIY'd actually get put on the tables in the right locations and are enjoyed by the guests the way they were meant to be?
Personally, I recommend to all of my friends to get a wedding planner. Wedding planning is extremely stressful and it is easy to become overwhelmed. A wedding planner will help you stay on track and also help you keep your sanity!
I think a wedding planner is for people who can afford it, not everyone can afford a wedding planner. If you have a reasonable budget and the time to do it, then maybe with help from friends and family members you will be able to put it altogether. Though wedding planners are professionals and they can do a much better job, so it totally depends on you and your budget.
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I agree that most brides do not comprehend the full benefits of a wedding planner. On the flip side, I completely understand how this could be an area to cut back on if the budget is extremely tight. I read in one of TheWeddingReport.com reports (I believe) that day-of coordination is increasing.
Which leads me to a thought--brides need planners/coordinators but, given the ongoing bad economy, their needs have changed. The best approach may be to first sit down and discuss what areas she finds most important and where she is totally lost. Then take a team approach with the planner helping to keep the focus on those areas and the bride handling other aspects. True, it may mean less money for the coordinator, but it's an opportunity for the bride to better "think it through" and realize she at first realized.
We actually just wrote a blog about this http://hawaiiweddingsandevents.com/weddingplannerblog/2012/03/do-yo...
From our experiences, the ones that pay the least, expect the most and more often than not, are not as organized or "on top" of things as they think they are. In light of the economy, we've actually managed to grow our full service market and are doing less day-of packages as we enjoy working with couples from beginning to end and that is when we truly can help them.
What the "day of" only brides don't realize is that by the time we get them, they've already contracted all of their vendors, so we're not able to change things and that is why they don't see the "value" as much as we were not able to help in that area.
It kills me to see a couple struggling with their budget and then see that they booked a photographer for a 8 hour package when they could have managed with 6, or vendors that are higher cost with all the bells and whistles, many of which they didn't need and we have our "gems" that do a great job but don't have big advertising budgets so they work from referrals only. We tell our couples, you don't want to pay for a BMW if you only need a Toyota.....but of course if you really want the BMW then we need to cut back in other areas to balance your budget.
If there was a "like" button, I'd push it!
As a wedding professional we love working with Wedding planners, things move much smoother when we do. Especially, at larger weddings it seems unthinkable to me not to have a team in place. Planners do more than just plan; they giive couples the peace of mind that comes with having someone watching their back all night managing the details. The planning process happens before the wedding, the management and facilitation is on the day of a wedding, which to me is priceless. My feeling is bride's cannot afford not to have a planner once your guest count reach 150 or more...Coordinators at the venues are usually more interested in getting the food out in a timely manner, they simply don't have the time or ability to do what a planner does.
I think one of the best illustrations of the value of a wedding planner is when a wedding planner hires another wedding planner for her daugther's wedding - oh and that would be me!
I've still been thinking about the whole balancing act of saving money vs. getting the support you need (from the brides' pov). I am *not* a planner (the website helps create dream weddings on DIY budgets), but want people to understand what they need and the value of having a planner for that piece/pieces (providing they decide not to go for a full service). In other words, they can cut costs but still have a planner.
So, I'm thinking to host a few guest posts on the subject--how/why to hire a planner when the budget is tight (different options, how you take the load off the bride & family, why even planners use planners for their own weddings, etc).
The blog is http://myonlineweddinghelp.com/bridal-news ... would anyone be interested in guest post, with link back to your website and/or contact info at the end of your post?
Being a wedding planner is a great job. You can have a lot of fun interacting with different people and have the satisfaction of knowing that you helped make the best day of their lives even better. And the most incredible part you get paid for doing all this! If you think wedding planning is the right career choice for you, go for it! You do not require any special education to become a wedding planner. Here's a guide that can help you in becoming a wedding planner. Hone Your Ability: Most wedding planners have a knack for interpersonal relationships and are good at making people feel at ease. While this may be an in-born quality, there is one important skill that can be developed for being a successful wedding planner, namely the ability to organize. This is the most important part of being a wedding planner and thus you should look to hone this ability.
It is my belief that Brides and their families need to be educated on the value of having a Planner. As in any other profession, there are great and not so great individuals. Planners are there to direct and offer sound advice on matters relating to the couple's special day. In my practice, the couple has the final say, even if it is not what I recommend. I always point out why I disagree with respect and go all out to make their ideas work.
Hi! I do think being planner as usefull as they have a strong experience in how managing details for weddings.
Plus we're actually Destination Wedding Planners and so we fell as a representant of our client down there.... we check everything for them...
This is also what our client tell us mostly that without us they couldn't do it... And why do they choose a destination wedding to pay a little less of money for their wedding in compartion of a wedding in their home town.
And then to finish a lot of client need help to organize all details and the flow during the day to enjoy the family
HAve a wonderful day!!