How to deal with an indecisive bride?

Wedding pros! I'm looking for some guidance on this issue. I have a bride who just can't seem to make a decision on ANYTHING. I give her my professional advice on her questions/concerns (a few examples are what wedding colors to choose and should I include so-and-so in my bridal party), but she wants me to tell her what to do. It's not my wedding!

Any advice/suggestions?

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Permalink Reply by weddingsbyrenay on November 27, 2011 at 3:05pm

Most brides dont have a clue how work and time is required in planning a wedding.There are so many reasons

why she cant decide. There may be a deep rooted reason, like inlaws maybe if you may a sit down with just the bride

she may open up.Just remember some of them know just what they want others dont.When they dont you must step up

its the whole reason she hired you. Be kind but firm she'll thank you in the end.

weddingbyrenay

happy wedding all

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Permalink Reply by I Do Weddings & More on November 27, 2011 at 4:16pm

I find if I have an indecisive Bride, I tell her that we need to make solid decisions because time is of the essence, time lines of contracts, hiring vendors and paying for services in a timely manner. Also making solid decisions cuts down on miscommunications between the Bride, Planner and a Vendor. Remind her if she doesn't make a solid decision, that she could be lacking in her Wedding and that you as her Planner would not advise her to do something that would make her look foolish in front of her guests. Remind her that her guests are coming to see her and also to see the quality of her event. I tell every one of my clients that I treat their event as if I am doing my daughter's or son's Wedding, and that it is a reflection on me as a Professional Planner as well. Hope this helps!

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Permalink Reply by Dina Eisenberg on November 28, 2011 at 12:36pm

People are like eggs: some are strong, some are fragile, some are just cracked. You have to accept her as you find your bride. You can help her (and yourself ) by discovering why she fears making a decision first. Then you'll have a starting place for finding a way to make her more comfortable. Fears too many choices- narrow the choicrs or reverse the focus ie what don't you want.

You have a chance to be her superhero here. You can bring her true vision ( not what she thinks others will like) for her wedding to life while mentoring her to be more assertive. It's a big role that would scare some. But if you're truly there to serve you'll grow into it. Warmly Dina