Wedding Invitations by Email? What Next?

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Permalink Reply by It's A Jaime Thing on June 21, 2009 at 7:13pm

There are ups and downs. I personally love the tradition of sending an invite in the mail but saving the trees and being green would definitely be a great tradition to start!

However, what do you do about those guests who don't have computers? I know many of us do, but some do not - just think of poor grandma sitting by the mailbox...waiting...and waiting...and waiting.

Or what happens if the invitation email accidentally gets sent to the guest's spam box?

How about your best friend who forgot to pay her cable bill and now doesn't have internet service?

All situations to think about before clicking "send" rather than licking a stamp.

Cheers!

~Jaime @ "It's A Jaime Thing"
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Permalink Reply by Ellen Futterman proper notice on June 22, 2009 at 7:56am

it is always in good taste to mail a proper invitation
ellen
proper notice

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Permalink Reply by Bethany @ Budget Bride on June 23, 2009 at 9:55am

As I said before, I think it's absolutely fine for a couple to send invites over email. It's their wedding!

I think that with today's economic climate and state of the environment, "evites" as wedding invitations are understandable. And some of them can be quite elegant! There are several vendors out there that offer this type of service, and their creations are really quite lovely. Greenvelope is one of them. I did a post on them recently.

I think some people turn up their noses at this type of thing because they feel it's tacky, nontraditional, and impersonal, but what these people need to realize is no one is sending out evites because they're thoughtless, lazy, and disrespectful. They're just trying to save a little money, and save the environment at the same time. Nothing wrong with that!

I agree with Jaime too, however, that you can hit a sticky spot with Spam and some guests not having a computer. There's always the option of sending some invites the old-fashioned way and some via email. I'm sure there are some tricks to try and keep invites from the Spam box. Maybe there's a computer whiz out there who can help us with that one.

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Permalink Reply by The Stuart Rental Company on June 23, 2009 at 12:33pm

I agree that you can run into problems with the invitation ending up in the spam box if you send it via e-mail. I also think that if it is a formal wedding, a printed invitation via snail mail is probably more acceptable while a more casual wedding should be ok via e-mail.

If the bride and groom want to save money and be green, maybe they can send an invitation through the mail, but have the guests log in to a website to RSVP. That way you save the money for the return stamp and rsvp cards. For the less computer savvy guests, you can send them the stamped and addressed RSVP cards.

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Permalink Reply by Lisa Safran on June 23, 2009 at 9:50pm

Emily Post's Etiquette book says"it is not appropriate, it's customary always to send each one of your guests a printed invitation mailed in an envelope. The only exception is in the case of of highly unusual or rushed circumstances"
After all the invitation sets the tone for the Wedding. One does not have to spend a lot of money to have a beautiful, classy and formal wedding invitation. Eveything else in the Wedding is so well planned out and thought about so don't put the invitation low on the list. It is a memory that can be put in your album and looked at in the fututre with fond memories.

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Permalink Reply by Nancy Barahona on June 26, 2009 at 7:14pm

I know all these internet trends are all the rage........but isn't anything sacred anymore? I personally and professionally don' t like the idea and would still go the traditional route!!!!!!

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Permalink Reply by P.J. Seitz on July 7, 2009 at 9:29am

I am a long time retailer(www.invitationimagination.com) who owns a stationery store,so it's probably a given that I am going to be on the side of an actual hold in your hand wedding invitation. I do primarily custom invitations on handmade or custom papers,with special silk ribbons or custom art,to my mind that is more exciting than opening an email.I believe the invitation opens the door to a special event and the email doesn't.It's like reading a book instead of using a kindle.

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Permalink Reply by Kristine Sheehan on July 9, 2009 at 11:48am

I've actually had a wedding Evite forwarded to me about two years ago.
Since I'm on the East Coast and my friend was on the West Coast it was nice to be able to "attend" via live video cam without leaving home or paying for a plane ticket. I didn't miss a thing! For some it's a money saver and for others it's just be rebellious!

Of course, I'm a traditionalist and Old Emily Post still rings true for me. I love paper and feel special when receiving a postal mailed wedding invite. I'd also like to mention... I hand draw pen and ink invites for unique brides. http://www.themerrybird.com/wedding.html


Kristine Sheehan

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Permalink Reply by Kathy Henis Greeting Cards on July 13, 2009 at 8:13pm

I can certainly understand wanting to save money, but I don't think an e-invitation is the best place to save money. I think it has been said on here that the invitation sets the tone for the wedding. You want to set a nice tone for your wedding. There are nice papers out there that you can make the invitations yourself with your computer if you really want to save in this area, but IMO an e - invitation is a bit too informal. There is just nothing more beautiful than opening up a gorgeous wedding invitation you received in your mailbox.

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Permalink Reply by Erica@African-AmericanBrides.com on January 28, 2010 at 3:13pm

I'm WAY too much of a paper-lover to actually do it myself.
But, personally, I would be tickled to receive an invitation that way. That's if the sender could actually do it in a way that is creative, sets the tone of the wedding, and easily provides all the information found in a printed invitation. It would be genius if someone could make it work. I just haven't seen a way to do that yet.

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Permalink Reply by Suzy on January 28, 2010 at 6:08pm

I’m guilty of sending evite BUT for BBQ or a small gathering party because it’s fast and informal. But as for Wedding, Anniversary and Birthday my opinion an actual invitation is more appropriate and traditional. It’s always exciting to receive an invitation by mail than by email. Yes you don’t cut trees down but if you want to be green you can use recycle paper.

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Permalink Reply by Glen Shevlin on January 28, 2010 at 6:51pm

The happy couple actually do get to decide, we would prefer teh paper version needless to say, ( really expensive catalogue to teh right) but at the same time Its their wedding , if they want electronic invites excelent, gazzells and giraffs, allo the better. ''The whole point is that its their day and how they want to celebrate it is entirely up to them.

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