Hello Wedding Officiants,
I need your help! I'm preparing a blog post that will be published next month, which will be called: 10 Questions to Ask When Interviewing a Wedding Officiant. I'd love to hear your thoughts on what those questions should be. I'll pick the 10 best questions. If I choose your question, I'll be sure to mention your business name and link to your website. So, this is a great way for you to get a ton of free exposure for your business.
Here's what I need you to do...
Thanks in advance for your help. I can't wait to hear what you have to say!
Christine Dyer, Creator and Founder of BridalTweet
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This is the final question. It is the question you need to ask each other after you have met an officiant.
Does this officiant "get us?" Do we feel seen by them, heard by them, resonant with them, a heart connection? If you answer "yes" then they are the right officiant for you!
Susan Turchin
Creating and Officiating Personalized Wedding Ceremonies
212-995-0801
Celebrant.NYC
JoyousWeddings@gmail.com
How often will we meet?
Do you want an officiant who will consult with you or simply show up to perform the ceremony? Most marrieds-to-be want the officiant to run the rehearsal. Is he or she available by phone or e-mail if you have questions? Some members of the clergy require couples to have counseling before they will marry them. If that's the case, make sure you are given a clear schedule that isn't overwhelming.
Hope MacFarland
On the Pond Marriage Services
onthepondmarriageservices@gmail.com
207-358-9838
Maine
Magic Moments Weddings
Maureen A. Davis
Officiant
Do you have an officiant that has a number of different ceremonies to offer you and can the one you like be altered to how you want it to be?
Couples always want their ceremony to be unique and suited to their personalities, not a cookie cutter ceremony.
A Marriage of Trust.docx, 15 KB These are all great! Thank you so much and keep them coming!
"Do you keep a back-up Officiant available, just in case of an emergency? If so, how do we get in touch with them?"
A very important question to ask and used to compare, as some Officiants do not always offer a "Plan B". What if some personal emergency prevents them from performing your ceremony; who will they, the couple or your planner call? Several times in the last few years, an Officiant either cancelled or simply did not show up for a wedding in our area. Also, sometimes when "Uncle Phil" promises to get ordained online and officiate, he may suddenly get cold feet a few weeks prior (often with little or no notice to make find another Officiant).
We were often called upon with short or a moment's notice to fill-in, often under very stressful circumstances for the couple. That is because we are a large Officiant agency who always keeps at least one Officiant unassigned, but available, to step in at a moments notice. Some Officiants also have colleagues who serve as a back-up, or belong to local groups / association that will coordinate and offer the same service. Ultimately, the whole purpose behind asking if your Officiant offers a "Plan B" is so that each couple can rest assured that they WILL have a qualified Officiant to perform their ceremony on their wedding day!
Chris Eppards @ Indy Wedding Officiants
I think the most important question to ask your officiant is if that person is in compliance with Local and State laws. There is more to it than just obtaining a Marriage License. Every State has laws regarding who can legally perform marriages. I would suggest that the couple obtain a copy of their State Law before interviewing an Officiant. Many States have disallowed those who have been ordained from the internet. There have also been several court cases were marriages were ruled void by the courts.
Do your homework in your State before you have your interview.
Reverend Giovanni Weddings
weddings@revgiovanni.com
When interviewing a prospective officiant (religious or civil), couples should ask, "May we personalize our ceremony?"
Some couples like to include his/her/their children or pets. Some may/may not want a prayer. Some may/may not want to write their own vows. Some may want to include a bit of (tasteful) humor. Some may want to honor their parents or grandparents. Some may want to find a way to include deceased relatives or friends.
Look for an officiant who is willing to work with you until YOUR ceremony is "just perfect!"
NancyT@BarefootWeddings.com
Sarasota, FL
941-952-1440
The most important question I think that couples should ask a potential wedding officiant is:
Will you perform OUR ceremony, or will you perform YOUR ceremony?
It's an important philosophical point. I believe the best wedding ceremonies are those which reflect the couple's beliefs, thoughts, and feelings about love and about marriage. The creation of the ceremony should not only include the couple at every turn, but involve them as well. It's of vital importance that a couple is able to connect with their officiant, and be confident that their ceremony will not only be performed well, but be reflective of them.
Reverend Paul Costello
Creating and Performing Romantic and Spiritual Ceremonies Throughout the Philadelphia Region
One of the most important questions to ask a prospective Officiant would be. "Can we have our ceremony the way we want it? In other words, do you allow us to be as unconventional or as traditional as we want to be?"
I say this because, not everyone wants the "Wedding by numbers" ceremony. I have met couples whose ceremony turn tradition on it head. I advise our couples to make sure that the ceremony, including the vows; speaks to who they are as individual and as a couple.
Donna Scott bridegroomnotary@yahoo.com
A Bride, A Groom, A Notary LLC
The couple should always ask will you marry us with your ceremony or Our ceremony and are you legal as some online Ordinations aren't in some states
Many couples want to personalize and Customize their ceremony and do not want Do you Do you you arn husband and wife the kiss and it is ove
(i have over 350 variations of the wedding ceremony as well as 40 yearseperience and I tell my couples this is your show and My job is to make you the stars shine. so yes I completely customize and personalize your ceremony to your satisfaction ( within reason) and the couple approves the ceremony before the wedding date so they know exactly what they are receievieng
and I have numerous reviews on my website www.A Wedding by Bill.com
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