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How Important is the Groom and his family when planning a wedding?

Last year I posted this discussion and I would like to revisit " How Important is the Groom and his family when planning a wedding"

As a Wedding Planner I often hear "The wedding is all about the bride and what she wants" What do you think and what do you do to make sure that the groom and his family does not feel left out?
For the past couple of years grooms are becoming more involved in the wedding planning process prior this process I noticed that there was alot more anamosity and hurt feelings on the side of the Grooms family. So I decided to change how I did things so that I could make the entire process of planning a wedding less stressful .During my first consultation I require that both bride and groom are present and the only ones in attendance are the bride and the groom why?? Because they are the two getting married I also do this so that I can get a true feel for both the bride and the groom. Prior to our initial consultation they are both given a questionnaire(I am not talking about your traditional run of the mill bridal/client profile you download from somewhere) it goes in dept as to what they both really envision their wedding to be and guess what? The bride is not always the one who likes yellow and wants the fairy tale wedding.

So again Wedding Professional and Brides what do you do to make sure the groom and his famliy does not feel like the unwelcome guests at his wedding?

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Permalink Reply by Gabbi Grace Events by Lisa Smith on January 18, 2010 at 10:48am

Listed below is a list of Traditionally what the Bride and Grooms and their families pay for However alot of couples and their families are started to share equally the cost of the entire wedding and expenses :

The Groom pays for:
Engagement/Wedding ring for bride
Wedding gift for bride
The marriage license
Gifts for the best man, groomsmen, and ushers
Fee for officiant
The honeymoon
The brides and bridemaids bouquet

The Groom's family pays for:
Wedding gift for couple
Travel expenses, hotel bills
Rehersal dinner

The Bride pays for:
Wedding ring for groom
Wedding gift for groom
Accommodations for her out of town attendants
Gift for bridal attendants
The Brides Family pays for:
Invitations,announcements and mailing cost
Brides attire
Ceremony including rental of venue fees for organist,soloist, choir etc.
Transpotation for bridal party
Engagement and wedding photographs and video
The bridesmaid luncheon
The reception, including food,cake,beverages,gratutities etc.
Gift for newlyweds

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Permalink Reply by amy on January 18, 2010 at 2:23pm

Wow!! This is a great and informative list. I hadn't thought about some of the things listed here. What an eye opener!!

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Permalink Reply by Judy on August 19, 2012 at 6:52am

Hey,

Thanks for this list- it's really helpful. Planning a wedding has made me realize how expensive everything is and how important it is to save money in the right places.

While searching for engagement rings, my boyfriend I discovered a few things I wanted to share. First, engagement rings online are way cheaper! Don't buy in stores, you can get the same quality ring for about half the price online. Second, you can save by choosing a wedding ring set. Sets come with both engagement and wedding rings. Jamesallen.com has a beautiful selection of wedding/engagement sets.
I think you'll be surprised how much money you can save.

Good Luck with wedding planning. J<3

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Permalink Reply by Tanya Porter on January 18, 2010 at 11:48am

Many tend to forget that the groom is also getting married! It's his day as well as the bride's. Yes, the bride does most of the planning and her family may be paying for it, but the groom should have his thoughts and feelings known.

I always ask the groom if he has traditions that he or his family would like to incorporate and then try to do so. This helps build a bond between the families as well.

Most grooms like to be included in the tastings, especially the cake! I also see more grooms wanting to have a say in the music. These should be fun times and fond memories for the couples. Wedding planning is something the couple should do together.

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Permalink Reply by Pia Nelson on January 18, 2010 at 10:15pm

Great article Mrs. Smith, definitely words of wisdom.

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Permalink Reply by Prestige Weddings Italy on January 19, 2010 at 5:18am

Sometimes happen that the groom organize all.
In other case the groom write to me about bars, restaurant and activities for guests.

I really advice to have a link with groom or bride and then to stay in contact also with other partner.

Thank you
Fabrizio

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Permalink Reply by georgeth on September 14, 2011 at 1:52am

It's very nice information for wedding planner and groom's family.These are things should keep in mind and plan a wedding carefully.The arrangement to be made properly and stick to the budget.Please keep the check list.Plan before 2 or 3 months because it will give some time for the plan a wedding.Yes,you are wright the groom or groom's family responsibility.If someone want help in planning a wedding,they can use the wedding app and get gain from it.

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Permalink Reply by Diane Thomas on September 20, 2011 at 12:47pm

Grooms are really getting more involved in the wedding planning. I think it is very important to include the groom and his family with all plans or at least ask for their opinion. As they say, you marry into the family so you want to start off on the right foot!