Hi I have been told by a weddingplanner that she gets invited as guest to the weddings she coordinates. Is that usual? I mean if i am getting paid to ccordinte a wedding I don't see myself as a guest and planner at a wedding. I have to be in the background to supervise everything regarding the event. At least that's how I see it.
What is your opinion about this matter?
I usually leave after all the of formalities have occurred that I need to supervise unless I have items to collect because we have done the decorating or flowers or my staff is involved in the breakdown of the event.
Oh my gosh!
That would never fly here. Sounds like your wedding coordinator wants a free meal and access to an open bar instead of running the show when YOU should be relaxing. This is a huge red flag, run and run fast.
Okay...that is weird. As a wedding officiant...I am normally ask to join the festivities and while I appreciate the gesture..I always pass. The up side of that is that I collect invitations to show all my other brides...so I love rec'ing them.
For your planner to foist herself upon your reception is ridiculous. Only if you want...otherwise...as a planner I would never expect that...though..the invite is nice. (I help with planning too). That just wasn't appropriate for her to suggest that...Personal opinion of course! :)
Just a note: I am a weddingplanner not a bride who started this discussion and I appreciate all the replies I have received. Because it is clear to me that as a professional you have boundaries and limits. You are paid to do the job as many of you have said on this board and you can't be hanging around playing guest.
Thank you very much!
There are many ways you can look at it, if you are a professional. You will thank them for inviting you. But you let them know that they hired you, to make sure everything runs smooth and stress free. Also you could have bounded with them so much, that they trust you and you are so good and professional, that you know you have done everything to make it a perfect Day for them. Then you can enjoy yourself a little bit also. This will also depends on all the other vendors that she has hired. They are at the level of professionalism that you are. What you don't want to do is have to babysit all the other vendors. That’s why you have to make sure they hire the right vendors that understand their vision of their wedding.