Hi I have been told by a weddingplanner that she gets invited as guest to the weddings she coordinates. Is that usual? I mean if i am getting paid to ccordinte a wedding I don't see myself as a guest and planner at a wedding. I have to be in the background to supervise everything regarding the event. At least that's how I see it.
What is your opinion about this matter?
I am glad to hear that I am not alone in this! thanks for your comments.
I agree 100%.....I would like to add that...there should be an exit plan as well....When does the planner make her exit?
I usually make my exit once I confirm (again) all the details with the Best Man and Maid of Honor, right before the main course....
That is another question: when do you as a wedding planner leave? do you have to stay all night?
You are definitely saying it like it is! I believe that as Wedding Planners many times our clients become very attached to us and we undoubtedly spend more time with them than any other vendors. I'm not surprised when they want us to eat on a 16- hour day! It's important to be discreet about it to not appear unprofessional. If the client wants me to enjoy their choices of food, I prefer to time it so that activities are well underway such as when dancing has started and not be seen for a few minutes. I really think it depends on what will make a client happy and not so much how I personally feel about it. I don't just automatically expect to eat, but if a client feels badly if I don't, then I will.
Planning with Excellence is absolutely right.
In my opinion a wedding planner, along with your other vendors, are not guests at the wedding. They are being paid to be there and have a job to do throughout the wedding. You should at least be providing vendor meals for vendors such as photographers, planners, and many times the band (pretty much anyone that will be working during the reception, and have been on site working throughout the day). Some people choose to provide a "vendor table" but many times the vendors will take shifts eating in another area away from guests. As a planner, this is something I prefer because I am usually very busy throughout the entire reception, and need to eat quickly. This prevents my meal being removed from the table by servers before I have a chance to eat or feeling like I'm running out on other guests who I may be talking with at the table because I have to cue the dj, band, or photographer for the next event.