I want to tell my story about how we eloped, and how this has been one of my regrets.

I have been married for 15 years, but never had a wedding.

I was nearly 6 months pregnant with our eldest daughter, We were struggling financially when we signed on the dotted line, and we are both quite shy and introverted, and couldn't face being the centre of
attention, in front of family and friends.

We both felt pressured by my in-laws who are very religious, and kept harping on about us bringing a child into a family with unwed parents. We really didn't want a ceremony, but their comments started to make us
feel a bit spiteful.

So, we decided to do a secret registry office wedding, with my best friend (RIP Karen), and Glen's best friend as our witnesses, and the only non official people present.

At the time, it seemed like a good idea.

In hindsight, it really wasn't. My parents were devastated, I am their eldest daughter of three, and so far, the only one to get married. My dad didn't say much, just handed us an envelope with some money in
it, that he had been saving for the future wish of a wedding, and my mum
kept saying that it was ok, it was our choice, but I know she didn't
really think it was ok.

Glen's parents didn't say much either, but I think they were secretly pleased that we were at least married.

15 years later, I am finding myself getting a bit obsessed with weddings, to the point where I now have my own wedding blog, and love to look at bridal magazines etc. I have spoken to my husband about it, and
we have decided that we will have a 'proper' wedding for our 20 year
anniversary, more a renewing of our vows, but with a bit of ceremony
around it.

Even though this is nearly 5 years away, I am finding that I am starting to think about losing weight and getting into shape again ( my pre-wedding shape ain't gonna happen, though ) .

I am happy that both my daughters will be present and involved, I really hope they don't go down the same path that we did, I know it is very selfish thinking, but I understand how my parents must have felt
now. It will also be nice to have some wedding photos with family and
friends included.

Well, that is my story, and I am glad I have got that off my chest.

If you are thinking of eloping, think it through carefully, with the future in mind. It may be the right decision for you, but it turned out to be the wrong one for us.

For others who are already married, do you have any regrets about your big day, or would you do anything differently if you could do it all over again?

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Comment by Melissa Kurtz on December 28, 2010 at 12:04pm
I think renewing your vows is a great way to dispel most of the regret.  I pulled off my wedding for around $5,000.  I kept asking myself, in another ten years, am I going to be upset if I didn't do this...

Hang in there!!!
Comment by Angela Love on December 29, 2010 at 3:30am
lol, we pulled ours off for around $250 - including my wedding ring :)

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