i do... now what do i do...

taken from www.wedbykez.com Kez is a young Newcastle marriage celebrant. Email her info@wedbykez.com or call 0402216597

Congratulations, you're engaged!

First things first - kiss that gorgeous fiancé of yours and tell them that you love them.

Maintaining constant physical and emotional connection with your partner is going to be so important over the coming months leading up to your big day... but hang on a second... you haven't set a date, or got a dress, or picked the best man, or how many bridesmaids or scoured every Loot, My House, Homewares store in town to find the perfect napkins to match your flowers.... woah! woah! woah! HOLD UP.

Did you notice that fiancé of yours has suddenly turned a little pale and has a slight lip sweat? That's called panic and no good comes from it.



The process of arranging a wedding can actually be as fun as the wedding itself, or it can be as uncomfortable, stressful and vile as cleaning out behind the fridge (but hopefully minus the cockroaches). So rather than becoming a blubbering, bumbling mess, crumbling under the stress of your wedding day there are some simple things to do to keep your wedding / life / work balance functioning.

Celebrate

Too many couples jump straight from the proposal into planning the wedding when really there is nothing wrong with stopping to enjoy a few mojitos along the way. Understandably you both are excited about the wedding, but you will have enough opportunities to discuss your plans over the coming months. An engagement party, a gathering of friends and family or even just a romantic dinner between you and your partner is a great way e to celebrate the next step in your life together.

Communicate

Make sure you regularly check in with your partner about their thoughts, feelings and their take on the wedding. Sure the bride tends to steal the limelight but that doesn't mean the groom should not get a say. Your wedding day should reflect you as a couple, not be as one sided as the last Federal election. Who knows they may surprise you...

Coordinate

Many couples choose to meet with a Wedding Coordinator (like planyourspecialday.com.au) . This no obligation first consultant could be a wise investment for you as a couple. If you choose to use a coordinator it could take the hassle out of a lot of your planning or if you decide to go it alone then meeting with an experienced wedding organiser could point you in the direction of a few great venues, dress shops and services that are available as you start planning your big day.

Look to family, friends and facebook

Things may have changed a lot since your parents got married, you may have sworn against a wedding like your sisters or you may have been drowning under a sea of status updates from your friends Wedding Book facebook page. Do not clam up and withdraw into your own wedding shell. Try to open to the advise that comes your way, whatever it's form.

I'm not saying that you should take the advise of your fashion victim cousin and start ordering purple lycra (nor am I saying you shouldn't if that is your kind of dress) but these women have been there and done that and when it comes to Weddings you can't buy that kind of advice.

Relax

Your wedding will come around, no doubt faster than you expected, stress levels with rise, more than likely one family member will end up in tears, something about the big day will not go as planned and at least one of your Uncles is going to make a comment about an embarrassing incident in high school .. he may even have photos. You can't control any of this, so why try?

Make some "you" time as often as you possibly can. If you have a regular hobby or a routine, keep it up! Life doesn't stop because you have a wedding.. You still have to buy groceries, you still have to pay bills and you still have to work (especially with a wedding to pay for). Set aside a some time each week for your wedding but balance that with some time during the week for a walk... a massage or even slothful DVD couch time. A happy, healthy and contented you is going to make the "ever after" that much easier to enjoy.